Comments on: Is pornography cheating? – Comparing using pornography to cheating or adultery

By: Jenna

Jenna — Wed, 14 Mar 2018 18:25:24 +0000

Everyone has their own opinion about what is cheating. Yours may not be the same as your partner. Most men feel that cheating only happens when you are physical with another while alot of women feel it starts with the thought. I can understand and in some way or another agree with each of those opinions. For me, i dont believe you have to be physical with someone to cheat but i do believe it takes alot more than a thought. In my relationship we have discussed these things with eachother, and we did that real quick, and i think if more couples did that then there would be less husbands hiding their porn and less women crying because they feel betrayed. When it comes down to it, what it really boils down to in my opinion is love and repect, cause if we get technical he isnt cheating if he hasnt even met or even talked to an actual person, no matter what it feels like, but when it does feel like that, does he love you and respect your feelings enough to stop? If you havent talked to your spouse about what he or she considers the line between what is and isnt cheating then you may very well end up being cheated on without them even knowing that they cheated and once that happens, once one of you feels betrayed like that, things are never the same. Its so simple to stop that from ever happening at all sometimes if couples would just open up more and talk about things like this from the start. Thats just my opinion.

By: Pastor Joe

Pastor Joe — Tue, 16 Dec 2014 04:01:04 +0000

Watching porn is adultery. He may not be physically touching these women but he is breaking his vow to you each time he does not turn away. The biggest challenge you face now is that he is most likely addicted just like a drug addict. You can’t just tell a heroin addict to stop, it’s not that easy. He really needs to make a choice; porn or you. You are the only one he should see nude and enjoy sexually. Don’t allow him to have both or you devalue yourself as a woman. Like a drug addict, he needs help but ultimate he must make the choice to live without porn or to live without you. Porn will destroy both of you. The choice to stop and love you is the right choice. As his wife, you must let him know that it is the only choice that you will accept. I feel deeply for both of you and pray you both do what is right. You will both need help depending on how addicted he is and how long it takes you to trust him again.

By: Lorraine S.

Lorraine S. — Mon, 17 Sep 2012 05:12:36 +0000

My first thought was that it takes a long time to heal and if she never rreally healed from your use of porn then that could very well be the crack that left the door open to mistrust. The mind is tricky and her actions could be a way of dealing with pent up anger. Hopefully it is not a physical affair, but this is only one step away from being as bad as actually doing the act. There has been a breach, a transgression of a covenant, and the pain is no less intense. In any case, you must confront her and be her friend as you go through the process of learning how deeply involved she is with this man. The sooner the better too because your agony is fear and prolonged fear leads to much anger, bitterness, and unforgiveness. Facing the fear is hard but running from it is slow death and much worse for everyone involved. Go to counseling at a church with trained professionals and find others who have made it through this hell so you can learn from them. I wish you restoration, wholeness, and complete.peace in your walk.

By: Duke

Duke — Mon, 27 Aug 2012 23:20:06 +0000

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By: General Battle Plan

General Battle Plan — Wed, 16 Feb 2011 01:52:20 +0000

First off, I am very sorry you have to go through this. I will be praying for you and your husband.
Pornography is a marriage killer. I don’t care what anyone says to the contrary.
Generally pornography is an escape from reality. While you are available to him sexually, he wants to leave the stresses of the real world and take a trip to fantasy land. Those women never remind him to take out the garbage or pay bills. Nothing against you, but you remind him of all his responsibilities.
Have you tried to sit down and talk without confrontation? What I mean is instead of you need to talk to him in a way that does not trigger his instincts to defend himself and come out fighting. If you were to sit down with him during a calm time, maybe on the floor looking up at him (it puts you in a non-aggressive posture) and calmly work into the conversation how his using pornography makes you feel; Your heart is broken, You feel betrayed, You feel unattractive BUT you want to be able to help him stop. Find out from him after you share how it makes you feel whether he really care for you enough to stop.. Then we can go from there… how does that sound?

By: Kerry

Kerry — Wed, 16 Feb 2011 00:24:24 +0000

Hello there!

My husband’s pornography addiction is killing our marriage. He gives his time, emotional and physical energy to the computer rather than his wife, who incidentally is more than willing to be whatever he needs sexually. Instead, “porn is easier,” especially when I am not there (I’m just about never gone more than 8hours). He lies, sneaks, and exhibits all sorts of angry and deceitful addict behavior when he is confronted about watching porn. He just keeps justifying his behavior. “Would you rather I really cheated on you?” I hate the porn, and I wish I knew how to help him see that he is breaking my heart by cheating with his computer.

Advice needed!

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