Comments on: Why do Men Watch Porn? – Four reasons your husband looks at pornography

By: Eden

Eden — Mon, 08 Jul 2019 07:39:22 +0000

I tried everything – some men (and women) are willing to try to address the issue and some are not. The only answer if you have a partner unwilling to try is to save yourself and leave them. I have an ex-husband and have never looked back. In fact I regret not doing it sooner. So if you make the claim that men have always been the more sexual of our species, the burden of proof lies on you, the claimant. So other than popular culture, where is your evidence that men are the uncontrollable horny toads of our species?

By: diane

diane — Tue, 26 Sep 2017 05:44:58 +0000

Wondering if your marriage worked out? I’m dealing with the same thing and don’t know if I should just leave him

By: Nadia

Nadia — Mon, 10 Jul 2017 13:59:45 +0000

Tiffany – can I call you Tiff? Lol. I feel EXACTLY the same way! If a man can’t ask for what he wants from us, maybe he doesn’t want it? It is pretty hard to continue to be attracted to someone who continues to break trust and get their needs met elsewhere.

By: Ralph E. Daer

Ralph E. Daer — Sun, 15 Jan 2017 05:07:50 +0000

I don’t know how your marriage is, but with mine, my wife is a constant nag to me, which makes me feel unloved. I work my butt off, pay the bills on time, put groceries on the table, & I never feel appreciated because I am not doing things good enough for my wife. I want to feel loved, but the constant bickering is a negative atmosphere that puts me down and makes me feel unloved. I would rather have a positive atmosphere, with love involved. Instead I feel like I’m hated.

By: R Pike

R Pike — Sun, 08 Jan 2017 22:02:58 +0000

The first thing anyone will tell the spouse of a porn addict is – Its not your fault. He didn’t do this because you were not enough, or were ugly.. there are most usually other reasons. He treated you badly because of his addiction -most likely. Now that he is gone you should seek some professional counseling to help you deal with his death and this porn addiction he had. He is not around for you to get answers unfortunately, but be assured he got into this despite things going on between you two. I have known women who were drop dead gorgeous that had men addicted to porn. Was it because they were not enough or unattractive? No. They were plenty attractive.

By: Joyce

Joyce — Fri, 06 Jan 2017 23:58:03 +0000

I don’t know if you’ll get this. I’m 59. My husband died 3/2/2016. He was always cold, distant, and noncommunicative. I discovered six months after he died that he’d been into pornography the entire time we were married–29 years. I’d been oblivious!!! Well, once we separated because I found disgusting nude files on our HOME computer (2005). I had a psychotic break, went into the hospital, and then a domestic violence shelter (much more was going on than porn, verbal/emotional abuse). Since his death, I’ve been suicidal. I feel his pornography was all my fault. I’m disgusting looking. I’m filthy. I’m ugly. That’s why he chose those “women” over me. And perhaps he was into cybersex as well whenever I was gone. You don’t know the constant criticism I experienced under his “rule.” The constant coldness to the point where he never even looked at me. Now, all I want to do is find a way to off myself.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Thu, 08 Dec 2016 01:19:06 +0000

Of course you are being lied to. You are the Dom and he is the submissive sissy that you have made him. You are the the same as my bitch wife and you know that you like it. I love to se porn of cuckold bitches like you. Porn let’s me be in control of a woman or fantasize about being sodomized by a dildo or man. You want to feminize him

By: stella

stella — Sat, 01 Oct 2016 03:15:43 +0000

Totally!!! The double standard has been oppressive to women for way too long. So out of balance! Where are all the real men, who are able to practice self-control? Porn is such deception. Degrading to all who participate.

By: R Pike

R Pike — Mon, 29 Aug 2016 19:09:23 +0000

Lame excuse for his ‘porning up’ time. Can’t say that is a new one. Every guy who gets caught will try to make some excuse to relieve the pressure of the situation. Truthfully though, he is genuinely addicted to porn and can’t help himself. Porn is like a drug and anyone who is or was addicted to drugs will tell you that a junkie lives to get high. He needs help and hopefully you will be able to help him get help.. not only for your marriage, but for him. It’s hard for guys to admit they have a problem, especially one that is so private and carries the stigma porn does.

By: Ideas and open

Ideas and open — Wed, 27 Jul 2016 04:03:32 +0000

Your insight, nearly floored me and lightened my heart. For the hiding and getting better at hiding it, taught me I was getting worse at accepting it. I went on a lovely tropical vacation with my beloved only to learn while family was in/out and walks on the beach and delicious food outings, he was “Porn-ing Up”- at first I saw the FB link constantly open. One time we all were swimming, he exited ran upstairs only to either FB or PORN UP, the kicker was I had left the tiny room only to return to see him being jumpy because he did not minimize fast enough and I caught a glimpse and rows and rows of pics, and I gently said -are you on FB? and he finally said what he was doing. He had been porning up the entire trip, in little pockets of what he calls “private time.”–this is a relationship where we experiment with toys, he loves adult book stores and I go to all of them, I shop and I buy, I partake with a smile and I keep myself nice. He does all the clique things, like “I look at ladies that look like you”–really 54 year olds with blond hair and a C section scar—really ?