Comments on: How to Deal with the Porn Addict in your Life

By: R Pike

R Pike — Sat, 01 Apr 2017 18:19:02 +0000

Trust is gone. He needs help and boundaries established before you can let him come back home. Try to get him help. Really the ball is in his court because you cannot make him get help. You will never know unless he tells you that he is looking at porn again.

By: Megan

Megan — Sun, 19 Mar 2017 10:54:16 +0000

I have known about my husband’s porn addiction for 8 years. About 2 years ago I found under-age pornography on his ipad. I finally had enough of our deteriorating marriage and we separated 5 months ago. His apartment lease will be up in 3 months and he wants to come back home. He says he doesnt have a problem anymore but he has done nothing to prove that to me, no accountability, no counseling, etc. so obviously i doubt every word he speaks. I do not want a divorce and its killing us financially to have two “homes” so im tempted to let him come back home. My biggest fear is that I do and never catch him again (he is really smart with technology) and ill never know but our whole marriage will continue to be based on a lie. We have a 4yr old daughter and i hate this for her! Of course he is always going to lie to me and say he isn’t looking but it an affair of the mind and i will bever know. I want desperately to KNOW!

By: R Pike

R Pike — Tue, 17 Dec 2013 01:45:17 +0000

He says you have nothing to worry about because in the porn addicts mind, there is a separation between the fantasy world and reality with you. He will not confess to you on his own. You might get it out of him if you ask him directly. If you have really opened up to him about how it makes you feel, and he still indulges, then you have issues. Offer to get him help. If he is not interested, then you decide if you want to leave him.

By: Brittany

Brittany — Mon, 16 Dec 2013 00:51:25 +0000

I’m having the same problem. My boyfriend won’t stop watching it even though he said I have nothing to worry about. I know he’s watching it, because I find it on his phone. He knows how much it hurts me. I asked him to tell me if he slips up and I have to end up getting it out of him. I get so upset! I found it on his phone today. I’m giving him till the end of the night to confess to me. If he doesn’t, I don’t know what I’m going to do. I need help!