Cleveland Kidnapper; Sex & Porn Addict

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May 11 1

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Ariel Castro admitted porn addict

Admitted porn addict Ariel Castro

Wow – This week was a big news week in Cleveland. Three girls who have been missing for ten years were found inside a Seymour Avenue home on Cleveland’s west side.

My wife was on the computer and told me the breaking news: “Amanda Berry and Gina DeJesus were both rescued from the same house!” I couldn’t believe it. Being a resident of the greater Cleveland area, I have seen the news stories on the vigils and leads over the years on these two girls who were abducted. Gina and Amanda’s families were vigilant in keeping these girl’s stories alive in the neighborhood and media over the years. If you live in Cleveland you could not help but know the stories of these young ladies.

I was very happy to hear such good news! They were found alive and returned to their families. All three women will need lots of prayers for healing of such trauma they have experienced.

There has been much news this past week on Ariel Castro, the alleged kidnapper and captor. What a normal guy he was to those he interacted with! He was the guy who visited neighborhood barbecues and performed in the local salsa band. Who would have ever suspected the dark side this guy hid from everyone?

I have said to many people that I believe anyone is capable of anything. Story after story, you see people interviewed on the news that say something like – “I never would have suspected this guy was into this.”

Double lives- we can be the church going, civic volunteer on the outside, but inside we hide our demons of sexual addiction and violence. What a dichotomy!

We all do this to some extent. We put on these masks to hide our real feelings, hurt and addictions. Behind closed doors people hide the shame of that person they wish they really weren’t. Sometimes this other person is a polar opposite of who they wish they were, but other times, it is embraced.

Mr. Castro admitted to having a sex addiction which led to his kidnapping and holding these three woman hostage. They were his sex slaves held for his own pleasure. How sick is that?

A guy just doesn’t go out and do this on a whim, he works his way up to doing something as drastic as this. I hypothesize that he was a voracious porn addict that drifted down the addiction trail of increasingly extreme sex acts that he had to take to the outside to keep up that ‘buzz’ that pornography once gave him. (see my post on the progression of porn addiction)

I would say that he started with pornography and worked his way up to the point where he needed extreme sex to satisfy his cravings. As the news keeps coming out, I would be really surprised if they don’t find any pornography in this guy’s house and on his computer. Not just ‘normal’ porn, but extreme stuff such as children and animals.

Let’s see if my suspicions are correct. Even if they prove to be untrue, this should serve as a warning to pornography addicts out there. You never know how far you will go with this addiction until you can’t turn back and have gone too far. Don’t let this happen to you.

Porn Almost Killed Me

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Sep 11 7

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Porn Almost Killed me

How porn slowly made me ill.

Starting in my teen years I developed this strange recurring illness that no one could figure out. Every month to two months, like clockwork I would get sick. My illness would start out as a sore throat with severe tiredness then I would come down with a fever. These episodes would last a few days and only went away when I slept them off.

My parents and I were concerned, did I have a disease? I went to my internist until he exhausted his resources. He sent me to cardiology, ENT and even infectious disease. They all found nothing!

This illness was not in my head as a few people had suggested! I just accepted the fact that I would be sick the rest of my life and there was nothing that could be done. Boy was I really discouraged.

I only saw relief from my sickness when I quit using porn! Looking back on the whole sickness period of my life, there was only one constant involved along the way and that was my using porn.

I have researched this to see if I could find any evidence that these two issues were related. Here is what I have found out.

Pornography usage is very similar to drug usage in that it causes ‘feel good’ substances to be released in your body. This fact is one of the biggest reasons why people become addicted.
Dopamine is one of those chemicals release in your body that is associated with pleasure. These are release when doing drugs or pornography.
Too much dopamine released into your body can cause a weakening of the immune system.
Too much dopamine decreases the amount of serotonin in your body which is critical to sleep cycles. Lack of sleep wreaks havoc on your immune system.
A weakened immune system allows you to get sick.

I firmly believed that pornography almost killed me. I was getting sicker and sicker and no one could diagnose me.

Now I only get sick whenever something is going around.

Life without porn is better!

The Progression of Porn Usage

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May 1 17

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The Progression of Porn Use – from mild to embarrassingly wild to illegal

If you use pornography regularly you will notice something happen. What used to excite you at one time has is less stimulating now. Porn addiction is like drug use. When you use regularly, you need a larger or stronger dose of it to experience the same high you did a while ago. You build up a tolerance to the drug to the point where you need just a bit more to get high each time.

In the world of pornography it works the same way. When you are first exposed to mild forms or porn you get a high from it. There is a chemical reaction in your brain similar to what happens when using drugs which gives you a high. In another entry we will explore this research, but for now let’s stick with this. You can use mild pornography for a while until you get bored with it and then you will seek out something different.

This is where the start and progression of porn usage scale come in. I developed this scale to demonstrate where porn addiction starts and how it progresses into using more perverted forms of pornography. When you slide down this scale to more perverse porn, your behaviors will change as you become willing to take more risks to feed your addiction. We are not going to address other behaviors outside of porn usage right now, but in another article. I must add that not everyone will escalate into more perverse forms of porn. It is not inevitable that you will slide down the scale, but very possible.

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Porn usage progresses from mild to more hard core

Step 1: Sexual themes and innuendos. This step is what I consider the gateway into pornography. It seems rather innocent, but consider how 40 years ago sexual themes were taboo. Sexual themes and innuendos are seen on TV and read in books. They are usually attractive, flirtatious couples who joke and hint around at having sex. It may even be implied that they are having sex, but not shown together in bed. These themes will take your mind down the road to where it should not go. These themes will ignite the desire to explore sex on your own.

Step 2: Bikinis, underwear & lingerie. Scantily clad models seem to be the norm anymore on TV, magazines, and the movies. You can hardly have the TV on for an hour without seeing one. The supply of this material is endless. A young kid will easily be able to find these pictures in magazines and catalogs that come to your house. If a kid is curious, he will take these for himself and study them. Once the excitement from these wears off, it will lead to the next step.

Step 3: Soft Porn- Playboy, topless, nudes. After looking at scantily clad models, it won’t be too long before you want to see what is under those bikinis. Access to nude pictures is easy whether on the internet, a garage calendar or from a magazine purchased at the drug store. This step encompasses models posing nude and not in any suggestively sexual positions. Playboy magazine was made famous for showing off nude women.

Step 4: Teasing & suggestive sexual positions. Once looking at naked women loses its thrill, the next step is to see them in teasing photos and suggestive sexual positions. This is where Penthouse came to existence. Penthouse was a bit more hard core than Playboy in such as they had picture sequences of women pretending to masturbate or couples engaging in sex. The pictures in this progressive step do not show the actual sex act, but suggest it by positioning the models in poses leave the rest to the imagination.

Step 5: Photos & videos of sex acts. Once you get a taste of sex from the suggestive photos, you will want to see what those photos do not show. This step involves viewing photos and videos of couples having intercourse and nothing is left to the imagination. This step involves normal sexual activity that happens between a man and woman.

Step 6: Group Sex, fetishes. Some people will not progress beyond step 5, but others will get into step six. Step six includes porn such as group sex (more than 2 people), and fetishes (feet, huge breasts, bi-racial, nylons). This step breaks from the normal a bit and allows the addict to feed on a specific type of porn. This porn is a little more perverted, but does not break any laws.

Step 7: Teens, child porn, gay. Some people stay at step six, but some will progress into this area which is getting increasingly dangerous and perverted. Using this type of porn further erodes the moral boundaries of a person. The person who has progressed to this type of porn is in trouble. They are in risk of jail time and progressing to the next level.

Step 8: Beastiality, rape and violent porn. I considered how this could be merged in with step 7, but to me this type of pornography is the worst. When someone uses pornography and has gotten to this level, they are in mortal danger of becoming a criminal. Ted Bundy progressed to this level and he became a murderer. In an interview, he confessed that pornography and then violent pornography were a big part of his life and the next high he got was from murder.

This progressive usage of pornography scale is an example of how the addict seeks a stronger dose of porn as he gets bored with a lesser type. If there is a lesson in this example, it is to quit while you can! Wake up and access what step you are at on this scale. How easy has it been to get to the step you are on? How easy do you think it will be to go on to the next step?

Please leave your comments below. Tell me if I have misclassified the types or have missed some step altogether. Your feedback is appreciated.